Pathological narcissism is a pattern of traits and behaviours which signify infatuation and obsession with one's (False) Self to the exclusion of all others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition. The concepts of False Self and Narcissistic Supply are critical for the understanding of narcissistic behaviour patterns. So is the ruthlessness and single-mindedness of the narcissist, addicted to his narcissistic supply, devoid of empathy,
Been doing a little research and a self-diagnosis leads me to this. I've copied this straight from the Wikipedia site
Emotional detachment, in psychology, can mean two different things. In the first meaning, it refers to an inability to connect with others on an emotional level, as well as a means of coping with anxiety by avoiding certain situations that trigger it; it is often described as "emotional numbing" or dissociation. In the second sense, it is a type of mental assertiveness that allows people to maintain their boundaries and psychic integrity when faced with the emotional demands of another person or group of persons.
First sense: inability to connect Emotional detachment in the first sense above often arises from psychological trauma and is a component in many anxiety and stress disorders. The person, while physically present, moves elsewhere in the mind, and in a sense is "not entirely present", making them sometimes be seen as preoccupied or distracted. In other cases, the person may seem fully present but operate merely intellectually when emotional connection would be appropriate. This may present as extreme difficulty in giving (or receiving) empathy, and can be related to the spectrum of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. [Johnson, Stephen M. Humanizing the Narcissistic Style. NY: Norton and Co., 1987, p. 125. ISBN 0-393-70037-2]
Thus, such detachment is often not as outwardly obvious as other psychiatric symptoms; people with this problem often have emotional systems that are in overdrive. They have a hard time being a loving family member. They avoid activities, places, and people associated with any traumatic events they have experienced. The dissociation can also lead to lack of attention, and hence to memory problems, and in extreme cases, amnesia.
A fictional description of the experience of emotional detachment in the first sense was given by Virginia Woolf in Mrs Dalloway. In that novel the multi facted sufferings of a war veteran, Septimus Warren Smith with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder ( as this condition was later named) , including dissociation are elaborated in detail. One clinician has called some passages from the novel "classic" portrayals of the symptoms: Herman, Judith Lewis M.D.Trauma and Recovery Basic Books New York, NY. 1992 pp49 and 52.
Second sense: mental assertiveness Emotional detachment in the second sense above is a positive and deliberate mental attitude which avoids engaging the emotions of others. It is often applied to relatives and associates of people who are in some way emotionally overly demanding. A simple example might be a person who trains themselves to ignore the "pleading" food requests of a dieting spouse. A more widespread example could be the indifference parents develop towards their children's begging.
This detachment does not mean avoiding the feeling of empathy; it is actually more of an awareness of empathetic feelings that allows the person space needed to rationally choose whether or not to engage or be overwhelmed by such feelings.
Yesterday I was down at the Post Office to mail a book and pay electric bill, the woman serving me said hello and commented that I had not been in in a while and then she pointed out that I now have a few more gray hairs. Thanks a lot lady!!
"Before gray hair you should rise up, and you must show consideration for the person of an old man", Leviticus 19:32 Today whilst out delivering the mail I was almost knocked over by an elderly person riding on the pavement in their electric scooter/car. I was just about to shake my fist at her as she sped off up the street when I realized it was my gran off to visit my mother, I let her off. They should really have driving tests for those things.
And in other news, The Rifles are my new favorite band, go check them out
For any of you who read those two rather confusing journal entries of mine, well one was a voice post, and if you understood them, let's just say all is not well and not everyone played ball..Now to carry on with Rob's story. If you remember I was sat talking with a psychiatrist and we left with her saying 'You've been scammed'....
Well how did I feel when she said this? I wanted to reach over the table and do evil to her, how could she doubt me? how could she doubt Sarah? how could she doubt Jane, my friend of the last year or so, the woman whose home I had sat in, the woman whose two children I had met. Okay so it did seem a little bizarre, I had a relationship with a girl who died whom I had never met, lots of people died around Jane, but still I lived through all this pain and now the damn shrink is telling me all that pain was for nothing, no way!!!!
I just wanted one person to believe me, one person not to laugh at me, one person to put their arm around me and tell me it was going to be alright, I wanted a shoulder to cry on, you made me feel so small that day and you made me so so angry, I came to you for help and what did you do? there was no consoling words you just came straight out with it, I had been scammed, you bitch. I can't remember much more about that session, but it made me more determined to prove that Sarah really existed, all you people who laughed at me, I was going to prove you all wrong, and I knew what I was going to do next.
“I appreciate that this journal entry my illicit such responses as Huh?, and what on earth are you talking about?, You may be forgiven for asking the question is this a wind-up?. Confused? let me try to explain. We have decided that seeing as you won't let us disappear then we must all fuse and become one. Still confused? you're not the only ones. Some of you, especially the ones who have spent time chatting with Rob online will no doubt be aware that there appears to be many sides to his personality and not always for the good. Those who know him in real life will echo these thoughts also. One day he can make you laugh, the next day he will make you cry. One day he is seemingly the nicest guy on earth, another day he seems not to care about anyone but himself. Rob is aware of the different sides to his personality, he simply calls us rob's. Though he is aware of our existence he cannot always control us, it's not very often we let him take center stage. The angriest of the rob's are the most powerful, the most hurtful, the most vindictive, and these are the rob's that are crying out for help. We know what Rob wants, he wants to be the caring person he once was, the Rob that trusted people, the Rob that cared. Those rob's are still in here it's just that they don't come to the fore very often.
So all rob's came together and decided that for the good of Rob and his future we should begin to hand control back over to him and while we will still be around we will attempt to fuse and become one, a more balanced Rob. Some of you won't notice any difference but others of you will no doubt see subtle changes, hopefully for the better.
You told us that you did not want Rob to disappear but we need to take him away just for a short while, we will fetch him back. We promise.
We hard working Postmen/women here in Rotherham received an unexpected bonus in our pay packets today, a productivity bonus of 30p, that's right thirty pence.
I've been scratching my head all morning trying to think of what I can buy with such an amount and I can think of nothing. You guys got any ideas?
Tip one...Don't drink whiskey from a pint glass, not when you have to be up at 4a.m.
Tip two... Go download Wolfmother, these guys ROCK!!!!!
Tip three...Forget tip one, drink about a quarter pint of whiskey, download some Wolfmother and turn up the volume, turn it up as far as humanly possible, these guys ROCK!!! I said that already.
I bumped into a relative today who informed me that cousin is getting married today and will I be at the reception? I remember getting an invitation some months ago but I did what I usually do with such invites, filed it in the bin, not that I don't like my cousin, it's just that I'm the black sheep of the family who people only see at such functions like this, weddings or funerals. I kinda like it, it's my cousins day but I will no doubt get my fair share of attention this evening, comments like 'We haven't seen you since....., Are you not married yet?.....You found God didn't you?....' I feel like Patrice Meursault (The Outsider - Camus) mixed with a bit of The Fonz when I go to these functions, aloof yet cool, and everyone will want to buy me a drink which I won't turn my nose up at. I plan on arriving about 9 when it's already in full swing, buy myself a single malt, say hi to my folks and no doubt walk up to some female cuz I've not seen for years and ask her 'when did you get so pretty?'
1. what is the traditional flower of remembrance? (not poppy) Rosemary
2. when Gene Roddenberry (star trek creator) died, some of his ashes were sent where? Space
3. which Rotherham born poet was known as the "Corn-Law Rhymer"? Ebenezer Elliot
4. which Japanese word translates into English as "empty orchestra"? Karaoke
5. which word in the Phonetic alphabet woul score the most points in a game of scrabble? 6. what is the most common street name in Britain? 7. the first single to sell over two million copies in Britain was written as a tribute to where in Britain? 8. who lives "in the top left-hand cornerof Wales"? 9. which is the longest motorway in Britain? 10. which is the most common gas in the air we breathe? 11. as at July 2006, who is the only British Prime Minister to have been appointed and dismissed four times, serving four separate terms in office? 12. what was significant about the words "Watson, please come here, I want you", when spoken in 1876? First words spoken over the telephone
13. which is the only city in the world to span two continents Istanbul
14. what are the names of The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse? 15. what is the name of Derek Trotter's local? 16. what comes next in the following sequence? red, blue, white, black, orange 17. in which year was the penalty kick first introduced into football/soccer? 18. in the line in "casablanca" which is often misquoted as "play it again Sam", which song is Sam asked to play again? As time goes by
19. how was Agnes Gonxha Bojaxhiu better known? Mother Teresa
20. in 1986, nine moons of Uranus were discovered. What were they named after? Roman Gods, Greek Gods, British Scientists or Shakesperean Characters? 21. what is the only letter that does not appear in the Periodic Table of Elements? 22. who is the all-time best-selling fiction writer in the World? 23. other than humans, which are the only animals that have sex for pleasure? (two answers) 24. in the 20th Century, who were the only England Internationals to be named European Footballer of the Year? 25. which are the only two sports where the defending teams are always in possession of the ball and the attacking teams can score without even touching the ball? 26. what is the highest point above sea level? Peak of Mount Everest
27 what is the lowest point below sea level called and where would you find it? Death Valley California
Okay, it would be wrong if I disappeared without saying a word so I've decided to tell you a story. I'm not going to tell it all in one go because you would just get bored so you will just get a little bit at a time. I'm not going to start telling it today but maybe tomorrow when I have a little more time. But once I've finished telling it there's a strong possibility that I wont journal anymore, all I can say is sorry.
I'll speak to you soon.
(Yoko if you read this, I got myself some tickets for T in the Park Festival)
Okay, it's time I took a little break again and a self imposed exile is needed. To my new LJ friends, from time to time I disappear for awhile without posting, now is one of those times. I'm ok, no need for concern, I'll see you all soon.
A young fella in my folks village died yesterday. It turns out he sped off on his motorbike after filling up at the petrol station without paying. A mile or so down the road he hit a tree and was killed instantly. What a tragic waste of a young life, he was only 20, but at the same time i think to myself, it serves him right, he chose not to pay and he chose to speed away down a county road.
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